For a long time, I was confused about exactly what it meant to hold space for another person. As a healer, though, this is essential to what I do. I hold a space for others to heal themselves. But what does that really mean?
To me, to hold space means holding the whole, healthy, and perfect image of the person I wish to bring healing to. Our intentions, our beliefs, are what bring about our healing. It is hard for someone who is suffering to believe that they are whole, healthy, and perfect and that life is good and full of abundance. The more a person is suffering, the harder it becomes for them to hold that belief that will bring them healing. So, I hold it for them. I hold a space for healing, while they feel and go through whatever they need to feel and go through.
I have gotten really good at holding space for friends, clients, and strangers. I am still learning to hold space for myself and the people closest to me. It is harder for me to detach from my own suffering or those that love. Little by little, I am getting there, at the time of this writing, however, I am still only able to hold on to it for moment at a time. That is okay though, I have a community I can turn to.
When I am too close the situation and unable to detach and hold that space of perfect wholeness and health for the people I love so much, it used to bring me great frustration that ultimately brought down my own vibrations and just made everything worse. I have learned to let go of the need to do it on my own though. I can practice detachment at my own pace and trust others to hold space for me and my family when needed. I know I can ask my community and my church and people will hold space for me. This is one of the great benefits of our universal connection with life.
We are never alone in anything. Remembering our perfection is what brings us healing, but when we cannot remember, others can remember it for us. We can do the same for them. This is all that ever happens in healing, really. Someone must hold space for healing by holding the image of health in their thoughts and emotions.